Mixing the Message

This post may confuse, frustrate or make you scratch your head and think for a moment about the real message behind this topic. We have all heard of Rhiana and Chris Brown and their domestic dispute.. or let’s just call it what it was physical abuse. Unfortunately this isn’t the first, nor the last headline we will hear about. I guess we have either known someone, been abused ourselves, or grew up in a family of abuse.. but either way .. let’s be careful of the message we sending when telling a story about abuse.

It just occurred to me while watching Oprah (yes I watch her, but my brother is in LOVE with her).. anyway.. she was talking to abusers and their victims. The main message was “Men shouldn’t hit Women”.. which is not foreign or new . Oprah interviewed other stars that were caught in a relationship that was abusive, and what their thoughts were, whether it be what they were thinking, how they got out and what they are doing now to help fight against it.

BUT this was my thought.. you say men shouldn’t hit women, not for any reason, but yet women fight to be treated equally and fairly as their male counterparts. I am NOT saying that men should hit women, so please don’t get me wrong... what I’m saying is this. Its mixing a message that women have been fighting for and that is, women get treated the same as men. Equal wages, jobs, opportunities, education the list goes on, but using this message its saying that women are inferior to men and that is why they shouldn’t be hit. They are weak and helpless and couldn’t fight their way out of a wet paper bag, or expected too for that matter.

I know it’s a little harsh, but you get my idea. Women are the same as Men, and yes Men shouldn’t hit women, but then again NOBODY SHOULD HIT ANYBODY, for ANY REASON. What about abuse towards kids, seniors, disabled, ethnic race, religion??? Is it alright for a male to hit another male in the name of colour? How about what God he believes in? Why doesn’t it hit the headlines when there is any abuse towards anybody? 2 men fighting at a bar, on the streets.. not all men are equal, nor women hitting each other.. they aren’t equal to each other either. We are all different. What about all those kids getting hit by both men and women? What about women would beat men.. and let’s be honest .. there are many of those, cuz not all men could even fight their way out chip bag. Why do you think it’s alright to see or hear about a fight with kids vs kids, men vs men or women vs women?

Until we stop the romance with watching fighting in sports, tv, video games, music and even cartoons we will never be a society that fully believes violence is not tolerated. When and where do we draw the line? The point of this should be simple. Violence against anyone is forbidden ... doesn’t matter much who is getting hit. If there is violence happening, it’s never a good situation no matter who’s throwing the first punch. Again it’s not cool to hit women, it’s not cool to hit men, it’s not cool to hit any HUMAN... PERIOD!

Let’s not confuse the message ..WE SHALL NOT COMMITT VIOLENCE TOWARDS ANYONE!